I have always wondered what people thought of me. I always thought they did not matter but today I just realised that deep down...somewhere in my heart maybe I always did in so many levels.
I have heard many words that described me but I never thought that one day, someday I'd be called a bitch. Even though this was something she thought of me in the past I still felt a little hurt. We were talking and for once I'm glad for the cover of night.
Maybe it'd hurt because it wasn't just her thoughts... but to know what half of my class hated me when I first entered because personality wise, I was described like a bitch. Even though they mellowed out once they got to know me but don't you think its a problem>?
Maybe it'd hurt because it wasn't just her thoughts... but to know what half of my class hated me when I first entered because personality wise, I was described like a bitch. Even though they mellowed out once they got to know me but don't you think its a problem>?
I was told that it was probably because of my attitude when it came to assignments and such. That I was being demanding and short tempered when working in a group.
I realise that I can;t help getting into that royally pissed mode people don't do their work. I don't think its too much to ask. I hate group assignments because I always end up being the one carrying the slack. But sometimes by the time I realise that I'm being "bitchy" its already too late.
So tell me. Is it that wrong for me to be selfish when it come to my studies>? I was always thought that when it came to my studies I should always put myself first before anything else because anything lower then CGPA 3.5 will not be paying for college.
Tell me. Have I being wrong? What am I supposed to do. Sometimes I feel lost amongst the world. Where is my place in all of this.
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Well,when it comes to group work, peoples like us will definitely be the one ending up carrying the slack because we care about the CGPA more than the rest of the group members. So you have to bare with it.
In conclusion, friends are important,I agree on the part where you said you should always put yourself first before anything else when it comes to assignments, yes CGPA is important, but, try not to hurt anyone's feelings while your working. For example, tell them straight to their face that they are not cooperating, if they still do not care, then let it be or notify the lecturers instead of screaming at them. Then you will look pro in handling issues like this.
Cheer up :)
I totally get what you mean when it comes to teamwork. My current classmates are as lazy as sloths. But I believe in one thing. I believe in trust, respect and chance.
You have to truly trust, respect and give your teammates a chance. So far, that has always worked for me.
I know, you may say, "They are really lazy assholes." Well, give them a chance and a deadline. Yes, a deadline. Remember to constantly remind them gently. Then, when the deadline come and there's nothing, SCREW them hard.
Oh, also make sure that the deadline you set give you plenty of time to make a back up one if they fail to perform.
So yea. That's how I work in a team. So far, I haven't had to use my back up plan because surprisingly, a little trust, respect and chance goes a long way.
As for the "description" that your classmates gives, perhaps you can further ask why they feel that way. Try to figure out what caused that.
Once you find the cause, maybe, you can change it.
It's a lie to say that we don't care what others say. I used to think that I don't care too but actually, I did.
Sometimes, it's not a bad idea to care but sometimes, it hurts.
C'est la vie.
As for me, if people say what I think is pretty stupid, I just accept it. Yea, you can call me whatever you want but if I'm happy, then, it really doesn't matter.
Ps, sometimes, life is not about studies either. What is it about? That's up to you to figure out.
Where is your place in life? Well, that's for you to decide.
“You know, Prince Zuko, destiny is a funny thing. If you keep an open mind, and an open heart, then I promise you that one day you will find your own destiny.” –Uncle Iroh, Avatar: The Last Air-bender
So yea. Just live your life the best you can & see where you go.
@Jen Thanks for your advise. Now I stayed away from this friend of mine. I am still good friends with her but when it comes for the time to choose team mates, I just ask someone else more dependable.
@Carmen The thing is. When I entered college~ I I hadn't even spoke to them yet and I had always stuck to a friend I met during orientation. Its just that I feel sad that people think that I'm a bitch without even talking to me yet. Looking back, those few weeks I was minding my own business. What made them said that?
And about the coursework, I gave them a week. A whole week and I ended up doing the entire work by myself. I just fail to understand why can't they do the report that I did alone in one night. Was it that much to ask. I did the report alone and got a 18/20 score and people who've never even read it got the same. It isn't fair.
I was just irked that she could just pretend the work didn't exist and couldn;t eve apologise. Another girl said she was 'sick'. I don't know if its real or not but she has been using that excuse to skip class often. The thing is she expects me to understand when she don't even tell me that she is sick. The report won't write itself. I'm kinda ashamed but I lost it and I was really really mad that time because if we missed the dateline all of us gets 0%.
Hmm...I guess it sounds really bad. As for the thing about them meeting you for the first time, I guess first impression do matter. Maybe, there's something in your air that just gives them that impression.
Of course, it's wrong to judge before knowing a person but people do it all the time. So yea. Sadly, that's the truth of life.
As for your report, did you treat them with respect or did you treat them as a burden? However, I do have to say that they are being quite irresponsible but if some people decide to behave the way they do, we have no choice but to simply accept it.
I learn that it's better not to expect but to accept. It makes life much more easier and you don't get so angry.
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